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Since 1890, my family has believed that the most valuable thing we own is our good reputation. We have become the most preferred family-owned funeral home in this region.
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JOHN J. HORAN
PRESIDENT / CEO

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Our family history of providing ethical, top-tier service for over 120 years, our world class facilities, and our staff of people who are kind, compassionate, and professional have made us Colorado’s most preferred family-owned funeral service and cremation provider.

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We have seven convenient locations in the Denver area. Our world-class facilities are designed to offer you and your family the most comfortable atmosphere—a place where your loved one would be rightfully honored.

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The Cremation Gardens

The Cremation Gardens®

Discover our breathtaking cremation gardens, the most peaceful sites for permanent cremation memorialization in the Denver area. Truly, they are oases of beauty and serenity.

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Horan & McConaty is a Selected Independent Funeral Home serving the Denver area

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Sue McCreary and John Horan appear on Colorado and Company

In case you weren’t able to catch it live, here is the clip featuring John Horan and Sue McCreary on Colorado and Company January 27, 2014. Horan & McConaty on Colorado and Company

Tips for Helping You Cope During the Holiday Season

Holidays are often difficult for anyone who has experienced the death of someone loved. Rather than being times of family togetherness, sharing and thanksgiving, holidays can bring feelings of sadness, loss and emptiness.

Love Does Not End With Death

Since love does not end with death, holidays may result in a renewed sense of personal grief-a feeling of loss unlike that experienced in the routine of daily living. Society encourages you to join in the holiday spirit, but all around you the sounds, sights and smells trigger memories of the one you love who has died.

No simple guidelines exist that will take away the hurt you are feeling. We hope, however, the following suggestions will help you better cope with your grief during this joyful, yet painful, time of the year. As you read through this article, remember that by being tolerant and compassionate with yourself.

#1 Talk About Your Grief

During the holiday season, don’t be afraid to express your feelings of grief. Ignoring your grief won’t make the pain go away and talking about it openly often makes you feel better. Find caring friends and relatives who will listen-without judging you. They will help make you feel understood.

#2 Be tolerant of Your Physical and Psychological Limits

Feelings of loss will probably leave you fatigued. Your low energy level may naturally slow you down. Respect what your body and mind are telling you. And lower your own expectations about being at your peak during the holiday season.

#3 Eliminate Unnecessary Stress

You may already feel stressed, so don’t overextend yourself. Avoid isolating yourself, but be sure to recognize the need to have special time for yourself. Realize also that merely “keeping busy” won’t distract you from your grief, but may actually increase stress and postpone the need to talk out thoughts and feelings related to your grief.

#4 Be With Supportive, Comforting People

Identify those friends and relatives who understand that the holiday season can increase your sense of loss and who will allow you to talk openly about your feelings. Find those persons who encourage you to be yourself and accept your feelings-both happy and sad.

#5 Talk About the Person Who Has Died

Include the person’s name in your holiday conversation. If you are able to talk candidly, other people are more likely to recognize your need to remember that special person who was an important part of your life.

#6 Do What Is Right for You During the Holidays

Well-meaning friends and family often try to prescribe what is good for you during the holidays. Instead of going along with their plans, focus on what you want to do. Discuss your wishes with a caring, trusted friend.

Talking about these wishes will help you clarify what it is you want to do during the holidays. As you become aware of your needs, share them with your friends and family.

#7 Plan Ahead for Family Gatherings

Decide which family traditions you want to continue and which new ones you would like to begin. Structure your holiday time. This will help you anticipate activities, rather than just reacting to whatever happens. Getting caught off guard can create feelings of panic, fear and anxiety during the time of the year when your feelings of grief are already heightened. As you make your plans, however, leave room to change them if you feel it is appropriate.

#8 Embrace Your Treasure of Memories

Memories are one of the best legacies that exist after the death of someone loved. And holidays always make you think about times past. Instead of ignoring these memories, share them with your family and friends. Keep in mind that memories are tinged with both happiness and sadness. If your memories bring laughter, smile. If your memories bring sadness, then it’s alright to cry. Memories that were made in love-no one can ever take them away from you.

#9 Renew Your Resources for Living

Spend time thinking about the meaning and purpose of your life. The death of someone loved created opportunities for taking inventory of your life-past, present and future. The combination of a holiday and a loss naturally results in looking inward and assessing your individual situation. Make the best use of this time to define the positive things in life that surround you.

#10 Express Your Faith

During the holidays, you may find a renewed sense of faith or discover a new set of beliefs. Associate with people who understand and respect your need to talk about these beliefs. If your faith is important, you may want to attend a holiday service or special religious ceremony.

As you approach the holidays, remember: grief is both a necessity and a privilege. It comes as a result of giving and receiving love. Don’t let anyone take your grief away.

Love yourself. Be patient with yourself. And allow yourself to be surrounded by loving, caring people.

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.

Copyright 2007-2013, Center for Loss and Life Transition

Compassionate Professional Daren Forbes

Daren Forbes is Vice President/COO of Horan & McConaty.  He a graduate of Brigham Young University Cypress College of Mortuary Science and is a Certified Mortuary Science Practitioner (CMSP). Daren has been in funeral service for 23 years.

What does “Live Well” mean to you? I love to spend time with my family which includes our three grandchildren. I also enjoy service opportunities in my church and mountain biking in the Colorado Mountains and Moab, Utah.

What is the most important thing families should know about you? Caring for families during some of the most difficult times in their lives allows me to be a part of something much larger than myself.

What is the most important thing families should know about Horan & McConaty? We provide unparalleled service and care during some of the most difficult times in one’s life.

July Caregiver Award Winner

Tamesha Prout, CNA at Suncrest Hospice is the winner of the Hospice Caregiver Award, presented by Horan & McConaty.

Chelsey McCrory, a coworker at Suncrest Hospice, submitted the following letter explaining why she nominated Tamesha.

” I am nominating Tamesha Prout because she has outstanding levels of caring and compassion for both her patients and her fellow CNAs. When I started working for Suncrest, she took me under her wing for 2 of my 3 days of shadowing and made me feel very confident and comfortable doing hospice care. She is the most caring and compassionate when attending to her patients’ needs and does everything she can to make sure they are the most comfortable and taken care of. Watching her with patients is a very rewarding experience, and I always strive to deliver the same amount of compassion that Tamesha possesses in doing this very difficult job. And she’s always there to help co-workers in any way she possibly can. She’s an outstanding caregiver and human being, and this is why I am nominating miss Tamesha. “

Thank you Tamesha for your commitment to those you serve.

Each winner will receive a gift card that can be used for whatever the recipient decides and an award.

At the end of twelve months the review committee will select the Caregiver of the Year to be revealed at a banquet honoring the twelve finalists. The Caregiver of the Year will win a trip for two within Colorado.

Do you know a Caregiver? Nominate them today!

June Caregiver Award Winner

Jamie Weatherly, Director of Nursing at Suncrest Hospice is a winner of the Hospice Caregiver Award, presented by Horan & McConaty.

Pictured: Jennifer McBride, MA, FT, DM VP Horan & McConaty, Jamie Weatherly, Director of Nursing at Suncrest Hospice and John Horan, President Horan & McConaty

Jamie was nominated by Janet Moeller, RN Suncrest Hospice who shared just one story of how deeply Jamie is committed to the care for the patients she serves.

“Last week we had a patient who wanted to go home from the hospital to die.  Her family was willing to care for her, but their apartment was extremely hot.

Jamie got permission to purchase a swamp cooler from our business manager and went and bought the swamp cooler.

Then she took it to the apartment and carried it up a flight of narrow stairs (in heels no less!) and installed it in the window.  The patient and family were very appreciative.

When I came to admit the patient, the room was much cooler and the patient and family were very comfortable.”

Thank you Jamie for your commitment to those you serve.

Each winner will receive a gift card that can be used for whatever the recipient decides and an award.

At the end of twelve months the review committee will select the Caregiver of the Year to be revealed at a banquet honoring the twelve finalists. The Caregiver of the Year will win a trip for two within Colorado.

Do you know a Caregiver? Nominate them today!

The Mythical Pursuit of “Closure”

Jennifer A. McBride VP- Director of Grief Support & Community Education

“Closure” around our grief at the death of someone loved is a commonly held myth in our society that must be talked about.

Nancy Berns, sociologist at Drake University, does an excellent job in this 17 minute video of a talk she gave discussing this powerful issue.

We grieve because we have loved and grief is not something we “get over” after a period of time, just as we don’t “get over” the love we have for this person.

Rather we learn how to live with our loss, embracing the wide range of emotions that arise.

Please take the time to watch Nancy’s talk and share it with others! >>View Video

May Caregiver Award Winner

Anita Kuhn, Social Worker with The Denver Hospice is this month’s winner of the Hospice Caregiver Award, presented by Horan & McConaty.

Pictured: John Horan, President Horan & McConaty, Anita Kuhn, Social Worker with The Denver Hospice and Bev Sloan, CEO The Denver Hospice

Pictured: John Horan, President Horan & McConaty, Anita Kuhn, Social Worker with The Denver Hospice and Bev Sloan, CEO The Denver Hospice

 

Although we only had the gift of your care for a few days at the end of my mother’s life… we would like to nominate Anita Kuhn for the Hospice Caregiver Award.

Anita was very compassionate, caring and thoroughly focused on helping us understand the process we were embarking on.

She was so sincere and connected so well with my mother, my sister and myself very gently and easily.  ALL of the hospice caregivers were great, but Anita stood out most!

Peter Italiano, Son of Mary Italiano

Thank you Anita for your dedication.

Each winner will receive a gift card that can be used for whatever the recipient decides and an award.

At the end of twelve months the review committee will select the Caregiver of the Year to be revealed at a banquet honoring the twelve finalists. The Caregiver of the Year will win a trip for two within Colorado.

Do you know a Caregiver? Nominate them today!

March Caregiver Award Winner

Will Reller of Gentiva Hospice receives award after being nominated by Jan Cico, Office Manager at Gentiva Hospice.

Pictured: Daren Forbes Horan & McConaty VP/COO, Will Reller Chaplain Gentiva Hospice, Jan Cico Office Manager Gentiva Hospice, Jennifer McBride VP Grief Support Horan & McConaty

“Will Reller is never too busy for anyone. He goes above and beyond when there is a need. He is very easy to talk to; he is a good listener and has good advice. He has a wonderful reputation in the facilities and is sought out by his peers as well. He is mild mannered and has a wonderful calming sense about him. Will is always ready and willing to do Memorial Services, attends funerals, is a wonderful spiritual counselor, and always has our patient’s best interest at heart. Always smiles and goes the extra mile for everyone”, said Jan in her nomination.

Congratulations Will! Thank you for your kind and uplifting devotion to your colleagues and patients.

Resources for Coping During This Difficult Time

With the events that occurred on Friday, we would like to offer some resources from the Association for Death Education and Counseling.

Resources for coping with traumatic loss and violence
Helping children in the aftermath of a shooting (APA)
Resources for talking to children after disasters (AAP)
Educational pamphlets about trauma (ISTSS)

Please also visit our library of grief  articles: http://www.horancares.com/_mgxroot/page_10747.php

If you are in need of support, please contact Jennifer McBride, Director of Grief Support & Community Education at jmcbride@horancares or 303-745-1771 x242.

Our hearts and prayers are with the community of Newtown, Connecticut.

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Since 1890, my family has believed that the most valuable thing we own is our good reputation. We have become the most preferred family-owned funeral home in this region.
We can assure you all of us will make this time for you and your family much easier.

JOHN J. HORAN
PRESIDENT / CEO

Let’s Get Started
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Cremation, Burial, Funeral Pre-planning with Horan & McConaty

Our People

Our family history of providing ethical, top-tier service for over 120 years, our world class facilities, and our staff of people who are kind, compassionate, and professional have made us Colorado’s most preferred family-owned funeral service and cremation provider.

Let’s Meet in Person
I’d like to know about your staff first »

Amenities & Locations

We have seven convenient locations in the Denver area. Our world-class facilities are designed to offer you and your family the most comfortable atmosphere—a place where your loved one would be rightfully honored.

Let’s Plan For Your Visit
Show me directions and more photos first »

The Cremation Gardens

The Cremation Gardens®

Discover our breathtaking cremation gardens, the most peaceful sites for permanent cremation memorialization in the Denver area. Truly, they are oases of beauty and serenity.

Take a Tour
Or visit CremationGardens.org »

Horan & McConaty is a Selected Independent Funeral Home serving the Denver area