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The Paradoxes of Mourning

Join us for an informative workshop with Dr. Alan Wolfelt. This workshop will be helpful to anyone who wants to learn more about essential caregiving principals for caring for grieving persons.

When: Thursday, October 15, 2015
from 9am to 3:30pm

Where: Horan & McConaty
5303 E. County Line Road
Centennial, CO 80122
(at Holly Street)

Cost: $35 to HeartLight Center
Includes lunch and certificate of participation.

How to register:
Email: emily@heartlightcenter.org
Call: 720.748.9908

Mail:
Heartlight Center
11150 E. Dartmouth Ave.
Denver, CO 80014
Attn: Emily Johnson

>>Entry Form

Kind Words

ThankYouImageThis wonderful note reinforces the importance of having team members who are warm, kind, and professional.  Kudos to our funeral director, Abby Sweeney!

-John Horan

Good afternoon Mr. Wellensiek.

I hadn’t been involved in a family Memorial service, up close anyway, before May of this year. My father passed on Mother’s day this year.

I went with my mother and brother to the Horan & McConaty facility on South Wadsworth. We had an appointment, or so I thought, but it appeared upon our arrival that no one was expecting us.

That’s when we met Abby Sweeney. I’ll admit, I had some preconceived, unfounded, ideas about the kind of people we would meet at the Horan & McConaty facility. Abby dispelled my negativity very quickly. She put us at ease and genuinely seemed to care for and about us. At the end of our initial meeting I felt as if we had really added a caring person to our grieving family.

Abby called the cemetery for us, and set an appointment for us to meet with them. There was quite a contrast to the warm professionalism we were received with by your team.

As we worked through arrangements during the week we felt supported and helped by Abby and others at Horan & McConaty. We made several calls and emails to Abby and always got timely and helpful responses. I went to the Lakewood office, met two more ladies of your excellent staff, handed off picture files and chose music for the very nicely edited picture presentation done by your willing and helpful team.

From preparation and through the week Abby was there for us. At the graveside service Abby and the team were helpful, supportive and always appropriately positive. At the church, for the memorial, Abby was a great resource when we had questions about how and what to do.

I’m not sure what else I can say. Abby and the others we met from the Lakewood team did an excellent job for our family. I just wanted to let you all know.

Many thanks to your team for helping us make what could have been a very trying time, into a time we could focus on family and friends instead of logistics and facilities.         

Kevin R.

Honoring Our Heroes with Special Benefits

At Horan & McConaty, we are eternally indebted to our military veterans who courageously serve our nation and protect our freedom. We honor our veterans by assisting them with obtaining all veterans benefits, Social Security benefits and life insurance benefits. There are many misconceptions regarding what benefits are available to veterans.

To learn more about what your actual benefits may be, please join us for a complementary lunch or dinner and this FREE seminar.  Be sure to bring your honorable discharge (DD-214) along, so we can make copies of it for you to distribute family members.  Please RSVP at 303.743.8804 to reserve your space at one of these valuable sessions TODAY!

Monday, July 20
11150 East Dartmouth Avenue, Aurora
Map & Directions
Noon and 6:00 p.m.

Tuesday, July 21
3101 South Wadsworth Boulevard, Lakewood
Maps/Directions
Noon and 6:00 p.m.

Wednesday, July 22
9998 Grant Street, Thornton
Map & Directions
Noon and 6:00 p.m.

Thursday, July 23
5303 E. County Line Road, Centennial
Map & Directions
Noon and 6:00 p.m.

January Caregiver Award Recipient

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Martha Vogt, a volunteer at Porter Hospice, is the winner of the January Hospice Caregiver Award, presented by Horan & McConaty.  Martha was nominated by Marie Baillargeon, Volunteer Program Manager Porter Hospice & St. Anthony Hospice Centura Health at Home, who described her with these words…

I am submitting Martha Vogt for the Hospice Caregiver award and as you will read you will see the many reasons why. Martha was been a Volunteer for our Hospice program for the last 13 years. She Volunteers at our Porter Hospice Residence. Volunteer shifts are 1x a week or every other week for 4 hour time frame. Martha Volunteers every Thursday & Sunday for 2 shifts (8:30-4:30). She also comes in on Tuesdays for 4 hours to scan medical records before they head out to the main office. When our maintenance/housekeeping employee is on vacation, rather it be a few days or a week, Martha does come in and cleans the building. Our patients love our bird feeders and Martha buys our birdfeed and goes out fills them weekly. You can see Martha washing clothes, gardening, cleaning as well as attending meetings and working with patients as well as families to insure that she is making their stay here as close to home as possible. I just found out that she also buys lotions and soaps that smell amazing for our patients. Martha has a true heart as a Volunteer and a great caregiver and she not only gives of her time, monies and sweat she is the most humble person I know and gives everything she has to make a difference. She is a real leader with all the Volunteers and makes sure that every shift is covered. When she sees and hears of a need for a family member or patient she is right there pitching in. She even runs to the grocery store to buy flowers and food when needed. Did I mention that lives in Kiowa and lives 1 hour away from the residence! There are not enough words that I can express to tell you how much Martha means to me as the Program Manager. I feel grateful and humbled every day to walk along someone who is part of our Hospice family. She is a true angel. I appreciate your consideration and hope while reading this that you will understand what a great steward she is but her spirit is amazing.

Marie Baillargeon
Volunteer Program Manager Porter Hospice & St. Anthony Hospice Centura Health at Home

Each monthly Caregiver Award winner will receive a gift card that can be used for whatever the recipient decides and an award.

At the end of twelve months the review committee will select the Caregiver of the Year to be revealed at a banquet honoring the twelve finalists. The Caregiver of the Year will win a trip for two within Colorado.

Do you know a Caregiver? Nominate them today!

Meet John and Valerie Horan

The Horan family came to Denver with hopes and dreams and a team of horses.  Now this local family run business with deep Denver roots has seven convenient locations.  Learn more about how they made their dreams come true and have become Colorado’s most preferred funeral and cremation provider.

September Peace of Mind Dining Events

LunchandLearn

We invite you to join us as our staff presents information and answers questions about the important topic of advance funeral and/or cremation pre-planning.

Join us for lunch or dinner at any of the below locations. Come for the food and stay for Horan & McCoanty’s presentation on what you can do in advance. Planning in advance is the best way to ensure you “Leave Well.” It’s easier than you think and we can help you get started. Our staff is specially selected and trained to help you and your loved ones through planning a final farewell.

RSVP’s appreciated as space is limited.  Please call 303.743.8804 to register for the date and time that works best for you.

Tuesday, September 16
SE Denver/Aurora (The HeartLight Center) Map & Directions
Noon and 6:00 p.m.

Wednesday, September 17
Centennial Map & Directions
Noon and 6:00 p.m.

Thursday, September 18
North Metro, Thornton Map & Directions
Noon and 6:00 p.m.

 

What Should We Do When We Hear Someone has Died?

John Horan and Jennifer McBride discuss this often asked question with Rick on KEZW. Listen as they provide guidance and suggestions to assist you.

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Tips for Helping You Cope During the Holiday Season

Holidays are often difficult for anyone who has experienced the death of someone loved. Rather than being times of family togetherness, sharing and thanksgiving, holidays can bring feelings of sadness, loss and emptiness.

Love Does Not End With Death

Since love does not end with death, holidays may result in a renewed sense of personal grief-a feeling of loss unlike that experienced in the routine of daily living. Society encourages you to join in the holiday spirit, but all around you the sounds, sights and smells trigger memories of the one you love who has died.

No simple guidelines exist that will take away the hurt you are feeling. We hope, however, the following suggestions will help you better cope with your grief during this joyful, yet painful, time of the year. As you read through this article, remember that by being tolerant and compassionate with yourself.

#1 Talk About Your Grief

During the holiday season, don’t be afraid to express your feelings of grief. Ignoring your grief won’t make the pain go away and talking about it openly often makes you feel better. Find caring friends and relatives who will listen-without judging you. They will help make you feel understood.

#2 Be tolerant of Your Physical and Psychological Limits

Feelings of loss will probably leave you fatigued. Your low energy level may naturally slow you down. Respect what your body and mind are telling you. And lower your own expectations about being at your peak during the holiday season.

#3 Eliminate Unnecessary Stress

You may already feel stressed, so don’t overextend yourself. Avoid isolating yourself, but be sure to recognize the need to have special time for yourself. Realize also that merely “keeping busy” won’t distract you from your grief, but may actually increase stress and postpone the need to talk out thoughts and feelings related to your grief.

#4 Be With Supportive, Comforting People

Identify those friends and relatives who understand that the holiday season can increase your sense of loss and who will allow you to talk openly about your feelings. Find those persons who encourage you to be yourself and accept your feelings-both happy and sad.

#5 Talk About the Person Who Has Died

Include the person’s name in your holiday conversation. If you are able to talk candidly, other people are more likely to recognize your need to remember that special person who was an important part of your life.

#6 Do What Is Right for You During the Holidays

Well-meaning friends and family often try to prescribe what is good for you during the holidays. Instead of going along with their plans, focus on what you want to do. Discuss your wishes with a caring, trusted friend.

Talking about these wishes will help you clarify what it is you want to do during the holidays. As you become aware of your needs, share them with your friends and family.

#7 Plan Ahead for Family Gatherings

Decide which family traditions you want to continue and which new ones you would like to begin. Structure your holiday time. This will help you anticipate activities, rather than just reacting to whatever happens. Getting caught off guard can create feelings of panic, fear and anxiety during the time of the year when your feelings of grief are already heightened. As you make your plans, however, leave room to change them if you feel it is appropriate.

#8 Embrace Your Treasure of Memories

Memories are one of the best legacies that exist after the death of someone loved. And holidays always make you think about times past. Instead of ignoring these memories, share them with your family and friends. Keep in mind that memories are tinged with both happiness and sadness. If your memories bring laughter, smile. If your memories bring sadness, then it’s alright to cry. Memories that were made in love-no one can ever take them away from you.

#9 Renew Your Resources for Living

Spend time thinking about the meaning and purpose of your life. The death of someone loved created opportunities for taking inventory of your life-past, present and future. The combination of a holiday and a loss naturally results in looking inward and assessing your individual situation. Make the best use of this time to define the positive things in life that surround you.

#10 Express Your Faith

During the holidays, you may find a renewed sense of faith or discover a new set of beliefs. Associate with people who understand and respect your need to talk about these beliefs. If your faith is important, you may want to attend a holiday service or special religious ceremony.

As you approach the holidays, remember: grief is both a necessity and a privilege. It comes as a result of giving and receiving love. Don’t let anyone take your grief away.

Love yourself. Be patient with yourself. And allow yourself to be surrounded by loving, caring people.

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.

Copyright 2007-2013, Center for Loss and Life Transition

Compassionate Professional Daren Forbes

Daren Forbes is Vice President/COO of Horan & McConaty.  He a graduate of Brigham Young University Cypress College of Mortuary Science and is a Certified Mortuary Science Practitioner (CMSP). Daren has been in funeral service for 23 years.

What does “Live Well” mean to you? I love to spend time with my family which includes our three grandchildren. I also enjoy service opportunities in my church and mountain biking in the Colorado Mountains and Moab, Utah.

What is the most important thing families should know about you? Caring for families during some of the most difficult times in their lives allows me to be a part of something much larger than myself.

What is the most important thing families should know about Horan & McConaty? We provide unparalleled service and care during some of the most difficult times in one’s life.

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