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Coping with Holidays and Other Special Days
By Jennifer McBride, M.A.
Horan & McConaty Funeral Service
While holiday times bring a certain kind of sorrow to those who are grieving, it can be the significant times in a person’s life, times not on everyone’s calendars, that can be especially difficult.
These might include:
• Anniversary of the death
• Wedding anniversaries
• Birthdays of other family members
• Major family occasions such as weddings, baptisms, graduations
or other milestones
There are many ways to observe and commemorate these important occasions, such as visiting the final resting place of a family member or finding a visual, verbal or symbolic way to remind others of a special person’s continued presence in the life and history of their family. Recently, one family shared favorite holiday memories of their loved one. There was laughter. There were tears. And there was relief brought about by releasing feelings honestly and directly.
As we are grieving it may be helpful to acknowledge that holiday times can be difficult and even marginalize those who aren’t feeling like “it’s the most wonderful time of the year.” Knowing that there is no right way or wrong way to grieve, only your way, gives you permission to do what is best for yourself and those close to you at holidays and anniversaries.
Here are some suggestions…
• Care for yourself – mind, body & spirit.
Do things that are helpful, nourishing and comforting for you, such as listening to music, having quiet time, enjoying a cup of tea or a bath that can be soothing.
• Reserve the right to change your mind.
Well-meaning people may extend invitations, and even press us to attend. Just because someone invites, doesn’t mean our attendance is required. Care for yourself in terms of how much socializing you can tolerate. People who truly care will understand if you tell them how you are feeling.
• Keep some traditions… or create new ones.
Some people wish to do things in the ways they’ve always done them. This can be the best thing for some, but others might find it helpful to create new traditions or do something completely different. Exercise your right to grieve in your own way.
• Acknowledge that life has changed.
Sometimes people don’t want to mention the name of the person who died, thinking that this is easier for us and what we would prefer.. Let people know through your words and actions that it’s OK to speak of the person who died. Set a place at the table and perhaps place a candle or photograph there that shows that that person’s presence is still felt.
“No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friend’s or of thine own were: any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee.” - John Donne, Poet and Cleric
The tolling of a bell at a funeral has long signified honor, reverence, and remembrance. It’s a sacred symbol, used not only to mark the end of a life, but also to highlight the connection between all people. In generations past, bells rang to indicate that a person had passed from this life, and to ask the community for prayer to make that passage a smooth one. Today, the ringing of a bell is a respectful, dignified way to further honor those who have served our nation in the armed services. That’s why Horan & McConaty is pleased to partner with the Honor Bell foundation, in order to make the pealing of the Honor Bell an option for veterans and their families.
New to our state, the Honor Bell is a 1000 pound bronze forged instrument, created and managed by veterans, and funded by donations. While it was being cast, artifacts from those who have served were escorted to the foundry by state chapters of the Patriot Guard Riders, and added to the molten bronze, as a way to represent past, present, and future veterans. Once it is rung at a ceremony, it is silenced until the next Honors.
The Honor Bell is now available for veteran funeral services, and can be rung at the cemetery, or even at a church or chapel. As it is guarded and tolled by the Bell Honor Guard, its rich, somber tone impacts hearers with a visceral resonance, reaching a place that embraces and honors grief, while also offering comfort, and honoring those who have served our country. The tolling of the bell offers us a solemn moment, which will be remembered long after the funeral service is over, providing those who were there with the comforting knowledge that they paid this final honor to one who lived life well.
Horan & McConaty is privileged to support the Honor Bell and we look forward to making this available to veterans and their families. This is only one of the offerings we provide to help create a unique ceremony that truly celebrates the life of your loved one. For veterans, we offer a wide range of options which, depending on eligibility, can include a memorial U.S. flag, a Presidential Memorial Certificate, a Veterans Administration headstone or marker, a military flag folder and presenter, and burial at Ft. Logan National Cemetery. We also offer full military honors for those who retired from the military, were disabled as a result of military service or died while serving on active duty. Contact Horan & McConaty today, to learn more about what we can offer you to celebrate a life well lived.
Listen to John Horan, President/CEO and Dan Davis, Funeral Director at Horan & McConaty share the story of how Herbert Von Feldt’s family celebrated his life. They also talk about pre-planning and the personal touches of life celebrations. Listen now with host Rick Crandall on Cruisin’ 1430 AM, KEZW.
One of the unsung heroes in our community, Dan Farley is a committed husband, a loving father and grandfather, and a devoted public servant. For many years I have had the privilege to know Dan and observe his commitment to helping firefighters and their families. With a history of public service, specifically in public safety, Dan tirelessly steps forward and leads with a smile, and an attitude of gratitude for the opportunities to contribute to the betterment of our community. We asked Dan several questions about his life and career.
• When did you join and retire from the Denver Fire Department? I decided to leave Wheat Ridge Police Department and join the Denver Fire Department in 1977. I retired in 2008 with the rank of Engineer, about 3 months short of 32 years with the Denver Fire Department.
• How many years have you been involved with the Denver Firefighters Museum? I was initially involved in 1992 doing construction work. I was the Executive Director from 1998 to 2001. I have been the unofficial caretaker of the “museum rig” E-04 since 1999.
• May we share a link for people to donate to the museum? Please do! We have two ways to donate: the E-04 account and the general fund, and it goes without saying we’re tax deductible for any donations. That can be services also, we’re always looking for construction vendors that are in the tax implication periods and can’t necessarily donate cash but can donate services. This is considered an “in kind” donation and is tax deductible.
• Why do you donate so much of your time to supporting firefighters? I’ve experienced three brotherhoods: the ‘foxhole’ brotherhood from my all expenses paid trip of the world sponsored by Uncle Sam as a grunt in the Army, the ‘Blue Badge’ of courage as a cop, and the ‘Red Badge’ of courage as a fireman. Of the three there is a very distinct bond with the Red Badge members and it’s easily one that I can identify with most. The times have changed some and recently I’ve felt some angst with our young ones but I know when the chips are really down they’re there and it’s heartfelt with a different commitment mind set.
• What makes the E-04 Memorial program special to you? It’s one I helped get off the ground, and have been closely attached to since our first funeral in August of 1998. My best friend, father and uncle have all been firemen and without question it’s so gratifying to see the faces on the family members when they see E-04 there just for their loved one. It’s at their disposal for the day and we’ll do whatever we can to make that saddest of all days somewhat easier if we can. If you could see the sparkle of those eyes just once knowing it’s about E-04 and the Memorial Program it’s riveting and addictive.
• How many times per year do you run E-04 for funerals? We average about 12 to 15 DFD member funerals a year. Some years have been less and some more and without question the ultimate sacrifice of our brothers that have died in the line of duty is the hardest. So to be carrying the casket of one of our own in that rig, E-04 is so special because it’s a program like no other in the United States that we know of. I know I’m contacted often from other departments wanting this history and guidance for setting up similar programs for them.
Dan Farley is the kind of man who should be celebrated, and at Horan & McConaty we’re proud to call him a friend. Committed to serving the Denver community for more than a century, Horan & McConaty believes in honoring everyday heroes, and the deep connections they create and foster. We’re also proud to help celebrate the people in your life, through signature services that honor a life well lived. For more information on how we can help you and your loved ones, visit our website or give us a call at (303)743-8804.
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We want to thank Sherry Duran for always being there for us. This woman is amazing. All of her duties & responsibilities that she does endure. She still has empathy and cares so much about our family. She is smart and very aware of all concerns we have about our dad. Her advice is so comforting and her help with everything is done ASAP. We all love her and her team has been so remarkable. She is a wonderful leader and a great person. We can count on her and she will problem solve and be there for us. We are grateful for having her for our dad.
We love her for everything and we are glad to have her.
Added note on back: This woman is so remarkable and is dedicated with integrity and honor and respect for us
Each monthly Caregiver Award winner will receive a gift card that can be used for whatever the recipient decides and an award.
At the end of twelve months the review committee will select the Caregiver of the Year to be revealed at a banquet honoring the twelve finalists. The Caregiver of the Year will win a trip for two within Colorado.
Do you know a Caregiver? Nominate them today!
The month of February calls for awareness about heart health and heart disease. Managing stress in your life is good for your heart and for your emotional well-being. The American Heart Association notes that “stress may affect behaviors and factors that increase heart disease risk.” Here are 4 tips that can be a good start to coping with and reducing your stress.
1) Take care of yourself. This is easy to overlook, our lives are busy and we don’t always take the time to slow down and get the rest we need. Try eating healthy, well balanced meals and try exercising on a regular basis.
2) Take a break. This could be as simple as sitting quietly for 5 or 10 minutes. Turn off the news, step away from electronics and take some time to slow down and relax. Try listening to some quiet classical music which can be an effective stress management tool.
3) Do one thing each day that you enjoy. This could be as simple as taking 15 minutes to find enjoyment in a hobby, art project or reading a book. Call a friend or make plans to meet for lunch.
4) Talk to someone about your stress. Let it out, this can help put your stress into perspective and is a way to receive feedback and advice from loved ones in your life.
Please join us for a memorial candle lighting ceremony to honor the memory of those whom we have loved and who have died. All programs begin at 7:00pm and last about one hour. Refreshments will be served.
Thursday, Dec 10 – Horan & McConaty, 11150 E. Dartmouth Ave., Aurora
Tuesday, Dec 15 – Horan & McConaty, 9998 Grant Street, Thornton
Thursday, Dec 17- Horan & McConaty, 3101 S. Wadsworth Blvd, Lakewood
All are welcome and there is no cost for this program. Please RSVP to jmcbride@horancares or call 303-745-1771 x342 as to the number of people and which evening you wish to attend.
Please join us Sunday, November 1, 2015 at 4:00 p.m. for the
Annual Luminaria Remembrance Service at the Cremation Gardens at Rocky Mountain Memorial Parks.
The Cremation Gardens
11148 E. Dartmouth Ave.
Denver, CO 80014
The Cremation Gardens
5303 E. County Line Rd.
Centennial, CO 80122
This moving event allows families to pay tribute to their loved ones memorial which is located in the Cremation Gardens at Rocky Mountain Memorial Park.
A service of remembrance will be conducted and food will be served.
For more information call 303-743-8804.