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An Open Letter to Bereaved Parents

My aunt, Nancy Knowlton, shares “thoughts of the day” with me.  This one touched me, especially.  We aren’t sure who authored this, but her grandfather, my great-grandfather, was widely known for his own writings or sharing the most meaningful writings of others.
-John Horan

An Open Letter to Bereaved Parents:

I won’t say, “I know how you feel” –because I don’t. I’ve lost grandparents, aunts, uncles and friends, but I’ve never lost a child. So how can I say I know how you feel?

I won’t say, “You’ll get over it” –because you won’t. Life will have to go on. The washing, cooking, cleaning, the common routine. These chores will take your mind off your loved one, but the hurt will still be there.

I won’t say, “Your other children will be a comfort to you” –because they may not be. Many mothers I’ve talked to say that after they have lost a child, they easily lose their temper with their remaining children.  Some even feel resentful that they’re alive and healthy, when the other child is not.

I won’t say, “never mind, you’re young enough to have another baby” –because that won’t help. A new baby cannot replace the one you’ve lost. A new baby will fill your hours, keep you busy, give you sleepless nights. But it will not replace the one you’ve lost.

You may hear all these platitudes from your friends and relatives. They think they are helping. They don’t know what else to say. You will find out who your true friends are at this time. Many will avoid you because they can‘t face you. Others will talk about the weather, the holidays and the school concert, but never about your child. Never about how you are coping.

So what will I say? I will say, “I’m here. I care. Any time. Anywhere.” I’ll cry with you if need be. I’ll talk about your loved one. We’ll laugh about the good memories. I won’t mind how long you grieve. I won’t tell you to pull yourself together. No, I don’t know how you feel — but with sharing, perhaps I will learn a little of what you are going through. And perhaps you will feel comfortable with me and find your burden has eased. Try me.

2014 Caregiver of the Year

2014 Hospice Caregiver Award Winners

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In January we gathered all our 2014 monthly Hospice Caregiver Award winners, along with their friends and family members to celebrate twelve amazing caregivers in our community.  We shared dinner and the beautiful nominations each of them received last year. Joan Hummel from Porter Hospice & St. Anthony Hospice was named Hospice Caregiver of the Year for 2014. Congratulations, Joan, and thank you for all you do!

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Left to Right: Daren Forbes, Vice-President & COO, Horan & McConaty; Joan Hummel, Grief Counselor, Porter Hospice/ St. Anthony Hospice and 2014 Hospice Caregiver of the Year;  Jennifer McBride, Vice President, Horan & McConaty.

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