When a death occurs, it’s important to acknowledge that children grieve as well. Here are some ideas to help you support a child dealing with grief.
Offering support to a child can be as simple as opening up a conversation, or making a simple statement. Here are a few suggestions of things to say: “I’m sorry your ________ died.”; “Would you like to talk about it?”; “I care about how you are feeling”. Try to avoid comments that could be harmful, such as “I know just how you feel”, “Get over it”, “Be strong” or “Don’t cry”. These types of statements may be more harmful than good, even with the best of intentions.
Giving the child a memory bag can also be a nice way to support the child through this difficult time. Get a sturdy tote and fill it with a variety of items, such as seeds (to plant in honor of the loved one), a journal for the child to write their thoughts/feelings in, a book, some paper and markers/crayons for the child to create a picture, and any other items that the child would like to keep as memories of the loved one who has passed.
The power of touch is a very powerful thing. Give the child physical contact.
It’s important that no matter how you choose to support the child, that you allow them as much time as they need to grieve. Some children may regress, which you should allow them to do.
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Even though it is often a difficult topic to discuss, it’s important to talk about your wishes with your loved ones. In sharing your thoughts now, you will help in relieving the burden associated with trying to make the “right” decision on how arrangements should be made in the future. This insight will give peace of mind to those closest to you, especially in the event of an accident, illness or injury.
Upon sharing your wishes, you may decide that you would like to pre-arrange your services. By planning your own funeral in advance, you will allow for those closest to you to concentrate on the difficult process of grieving and coping with the loss without the worry of details associated with your funeral.
By fully pre-planning, it relieves you and your family from future financial responsibility. Our funeral home has options to make sure your funeral is fully funded and price protected years in advance of your need.
Pre-planning gives you the opportunity to personalize your funeral and make it a tribute to the life you lived. It’s a great way to get your loved ones involved and can make a difficult experience a more positive one.
To walk through our pre-planning guide, please visit the following link: http://www.horancares.com/_mgxroot/page_10818.php
It can be very difficult to think about your loved one just after they have passed away. However, there will come a time when comfort will be found in reminiscing about the wonderful experiences shared with that person.
There are many ways you can remember your loved one. The simplest way is by talking about him or her. When you feel that you are ready, try to tell a close friend or relative your favorite memories and stories about the deceased. Gathering with family or friends to share stories and memories can be very comforting.
During special occasions like birthdays, holidays, or anniversaries, make it a point to find ways recognize the presence of the loved one who has passed away. Using a favorite utensil or displaying a favorite item could be enough to bring up happy memories. Light a candle or make a toast in memory of the loved one.
Another effective and inexpensive way to reminisce about past experiences is by creating a photo album or scrapbook of your loved one. Drawings, poems, and letters both made for and by the deceased could be incorporated in the scrapbook along with pictures.
If you have larger pieces that remind you of your loved one, place those items in a special chest or box. These could include letters, diaries, photo albums, plaques, favorite books and other items that had great meaning to that person.
There are many ways you can remember your loved ones and cherish the happy memories. However you choose to do so, choose what feels right and what’s comforatable for you.