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Music has the power to effect our emotions in many ways. Research shows that memory of high emotional charge stimulates the brain to record that and all the other things that were going on at that specific moment.

Our brain connects sounds, smells, and feelings to the event that has occurred and links them together. In the event of a tragedy, if there is a specific sound or musical background, those involved may find themselves experiencing the feelings associated with their tragedy every time they hear that specific sound.

This explains why certain songs create emotions and why the songs we associate with funerals can create sadness. These emotions sometimes even escalate to a physical response, such as sobbing.

Because the brain makes the connection between song and emotion, the same song will not affect everyone in the same way. The song that may create sadness for one, could give another person the strength they need to help them through the grieving process.

There is something about music that evolves over time. When we hear a song we re-live the emotional sequence that happened when we heard it previously. When you start looking at the songs you listen to, pay attention to your emotions.

You might be surprised at how songs effect your emotions. Think of the songs you heard at the most recent funeral you attended? Is there an emotional response to any of those songs?

Along with other holidays such as Christmas and Thanksgiving, Valentine’s Day can be a particularly difficult time of loneliness, especially if you have lost your spouse.

While all of the television commercials and retail stores are packed with roses, hearts, candy, and messages of love, these messages may deepen feelings of distance between the life you once had with your spouse, and the one you lead today.

If you are experiencing these feelings, we suggest that you plan on doing something on Valentine’s Day. Plan your day to help in overcoming loneliness. Here are some suggestions:

1. Prepare your spouse’s favorite meal and invite friends and family over to enjoy it with you.

2. Visit your spouse’s resting place. If you’d like, bring a poem or card to read.

3. Spend time with others you love, possibly children, grandchildren, or good friends. Re-define the romantic holiday into another form of love, the love for close friends and family. If you feel up to it, reminisce of past Valentine’s Days you shared.

Valentine’s Day can be an opportunity to share memories, and reflect on the wonderful moments had with your loved one. Sharing your stories and memories with others you are close to can be a truly great way to share your love and surround yourself with goodfeelings this Valentine’s Day.