Working through grief takes time, and one can only work through it at their own pace. A positive first step in the grieving process is to participate in the funeral or memorial service. This will give you a chance to say goodbye, and share your feelings with others who are experiencing the same emotions. In the days following the service, you may feel the need to lean on others (and others on you) for understanding, encouragement and guidance.
When someone you know is going through the grieving process, there are many things that you can do to help him or her. Supporting a loved one as they grieve can make a positive impact on that person, and truly make a difference in their life.
Here are a few suggestions:
• Call or stop by to make sure that your loved one is okay, and offer a listening ear.
• Help your loved one put together a memory book with pictures of the person that has passed away.
• Take him or her out for a cup of coffee or help with daily tasks. Sometimes just having the company of another goes a long way.
• Send a card or gift letting him or her know that you are thinking of them.
In addition to what you can do to help a loved one through their grieving process, there are also many local and national support groups available to help with grief. Bereavement support groups can provide support to your loved one, as well as retreats, counselors, workshops, recommended readings and information about grief.