Have you ever felt like crying, but ended up laughing instead? Has this ever happened at a moment that may have seemed inappropriate? If you answered yes to these questions, rest assured that you are not alone.
Even though it may seem inappropriate, psychologists say that uncontrollable nervous laughter is normal. It is typically a physiological response to a tragedy or event, such as a funeral.
So why is it sometimes people cry to the point that they laugh, or laugh so hard they cry? Because laughing and crying provide the same kind of physiological stress release. It can often be a defense mechanism when feeling uncomfortable in a situation, or when one is overwhelmed. Holding back tears hinders the body from relieving the anxiety that is building, so the human body discharges the energy by causing laughter instead. In these situations we usually laugh in a subconscious attempt to reduce stress and calm down. However, it often works otherwise. Nervous laughter is typically perceived not to be genuine, and can ultimately heighten the awkwardness of the situation.
If you see someone laughing during a stressful or tragic situation, please keep in mind that they probably cannot control it. They are simply overwhelmed to the point where the body needs to release it. If you find yourself laughing instead of crying, take deep breaths and try to calm down. It is a common reaction, and with the exception of a bit of embarrassment, everything will be fine.
It’s very important to all of us at Horan & McConaty that all your questions are answered on all topics pertaining to death, funerals and cremation. Often times, we are asked about cremation, so we’d like to share some information to help you with questions you may have.
Starting with what cremation is, it is a process of reducing the human body to bone fragments using high heat and flame. The equipment used for cremation operates between 1500 and 2000 degrees Fahrenheit.
After the cremation is complete, all organic bone fragments, are collected and placed in a cooling pan. All non-consumed items, like metal are separated from the cremated remains. Remaining bone fragments are then processed to a fine size and placed either into an urn, selected by the family or a basic container, if an urn is not selected. Cremated remains have a coarse sand-like consistency and are light grey, almost white in color.
There are many ways to handle the cremated remains. They can be buried in a cemetery or cremation garden, kept at home, or scattered on private property. In more recent years, there have been more unique ways in handling remains, such as incorporating them into paintings and jewelry.
If you are considering cremation, we encourage you to carefully select a cremation service provider, as Colorado does not require licensure of its funeral homes and crematories.
At Horan & McConaty Funeral homes we have developed the most rigorous set of operating policies and procedures in order to maximize our level of quality. Positive identification of the deceased is assured throughout each stage of the cremation process. We only allow certified professionals to operate our cremation equipment.
If you would like more information on cremation, please visit our website: http://www.horancares.com/_mgxroot/page_10752.php or call (303)745-4418.
Working through grief takes time, and one can only work through it at their own pace. A positive first step in the grieving process is to participate in the funeral or memorial service. This will give you a chance to say goodbye, and share your feelings with others who are experiencing the same emotions. In the days following the service, you may feel the need to lean on others (and others on you) for understanding, encouragement and guidance.
When someone you know is going through the grieving process, there are many things that you can do to help him or her. Supporting a loved one as they grieve can make a positive impact on that person, and truly make a difference in their life.
Here are a few suggestions:
• Call or stop by to make sure that your loved one is okay, and offer a listening ear.
• Help your loved one put together a memory book with pictures of the person that has passed away.
• Take him or her out for a cup of coffee or help with daily tasks. Sometimes just having the company of another goes a long way.
• Send a card or gift letting him or her know that you are thinking of them.
In addition to what you can do to help a loved one through their grieving process, there are also many local and national support groups available to help with grief. Bereavement support groups can provide support to your loved one, as well as retreats, counselors, workshops, recommended readings and information about grief.
We all know that weather affects our mood, so it is no surprise that the fall season affects our feelings of grief. Whether your loved one passed away in the fall, the cooler air and shorter days are bringing with them a sense of loss or sorrow, or the memories of those we lost on September 11th are affecting your mood, it is important to realize you are not alone.
This coming weekend, the media will be covering the events paying tribute to those who lost their lives on 9/11. During this time, it is important to realize that there are many people still grieving today, ten years later, and that this coverage will be difficult for many to watch.
If you start feeling sad, or if you have a sense of grief, first try to find comfort in small things, such as warming up with a special sweater or cuddling up in a soft blanket. Many times, a small but positive activity, or shared seasonal meal or cup of coffee with a friend can go a long way towards stemming grief or sadness early. But please be aware that for some, grief will not be soothed by a small act or comfort. If you or someone you know is having trouble grieving their loss, whether past or present, we encourage you to find a grief support group or counselor.
Fall can often be a difficult time for many. This weekend in particular can be especially hard to deal with. Please take the time to take care of yourself emotionally. Recognize and accept that your feelings are not only normal, but are being shared by a great number of people throughout the country. Then do the things that will not only give you comfort, but bring emotional support and happiness into your life.