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An Open Letter to Bereaved Parents

My aunt, Nancy Knowlton, shares “thoughts of the day” with me.  This one touched me, especially.  We aren’t sure who authored this, but her grandfather, my great-grandfather, was widely known for his own writings or sharing the most meaningful writings of others.
-John Horan

An Open Letter to Bereaved Parents:

I won’t say, “I know how you feel” –because I don’t. I’ve lost grandparents, aunts, uncles and friends, but I’ve never lost a child. So how can I say I know how you feel?

I won’t say, “You’ll get over it” –because you won’t. Life will have to go on. The washing, cooking, cleaning, the common routine. These chores will take your mind off your loved one, but the hurt will still be there.

I won’t say, “Your other children will be a comfort to you” –because they may not be. Many mothers I’ve talked to say that after they have lost a child, they easily lose their temper with their remaining children.  Some even feel resentful that they’re alive and healthy, when the other child is not.

I won’t say, “never mind, you’re young enough to have another baby” –because that won’t help. A new baby cannot replace the one you’ve lost. A new baby will fill your hours, keep you busy, give you sleepless nights. But it will not replace the one you’ve lost.

You may hear all these platitudes from your friends and relatives. They think they are helping. They don’t know what else to say. You will find out who your true friends are at this time. Many will avoid you because they can‘t face you. Others will talk about the weather, the holidays and the school concert, but never about your child. Never about how you are coping.

So what will I say? I will say, “I’m here. I care. Any time. Anywhere.” I’ll cry with you if need be. I’ll talk about your loved one. We’ll laugh about the good memories. I won’t mind how long you grieve. I won’t tell you to pull yourself together. No, I don’t know how you feel — but with sharing, perhaps I will learn a little of what you are going through. And perhaps you will feel comfortable with me and find your burden has eased. Try me.

2014 Caregiver of the Year

2014 Hospice Caregiver Award Winners

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In January we gathered all our 2014 monthly Hospice Caregiver Award winners, along with their friends and family members to celebrate twelve amazing caregivers in our community.  We shared dinner and the beautiful nominations each of them received last year. Joan Hummel from Porter Hospice & St. Anthony Hospice was named Hospice Caregiver of the Year for 2014. Congratulations, Joan, and thank you for all you do!

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Left to Right: Daren Forbes, Vice-President & COO, Horan & McConaty; Joan Hummel, Grief Counselor, Porter Hospice/ St. Anthony Hospice and 2014 Hospice Caregiver of the Year;  Jennifer McBride, Vice President, Horan & McConaty.

Understand Your Veterans Benefits for You and Your Family

VeteransSeminarMonday, February 23, 2015
Dinner served at 6:00pm
3101 S. Wadsworth Blvd. (Lakewood)

At Horan & McConaty, we are eternally indebted to our military veterans who courageously serve our nation and protect our freedom. We honor our veterans by assisting their families with obtaining all veterans’ benefits, Social Security benefits and life insurance benefits.
Join us for a complimentary dinner and learn how planning ahead can give you and your family peace of mind and how your Veteran’s benefits can save you a substantial amount of money. We specialize in explaining and obtaining the federal burial benefits you and your dependents are entitled to receive.

RSVP’S APPRECIATED by February 21st. Please call 303.743.8804

Meet John and Valerie Horan

The Horan family came to Denver with hopes and dreams and a team of horses.  Now this local family run business with deep Denver roots has seven convenient locations.  Learn more about how they made their dreams come true and have become Colorado’s most preferred funeral and cremation provider.

Plan for Retirement NOW!

RetirementSeminar

Monday, February 16, 2015

Dinner served at 6:00pm

1091 S. Colorado Street

All are welcome for a complimentary dinner and a comprehensive seminar on preparing for the next phase of your life. Learn about the things that need to be discussed in planning for retirement from our panel of experts: Mr. Richard Hughes, principal partner at The Hughes Law Firm, William Kowalski, Financial Advisor with Raymond James and Bill Logan Advance Planning Advisor with Horan & McConaty.

RSVP’S APPRECIATED by February 13th
Please call 303.743.8804

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Meet Our December Caregiver of the Month

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Simone Turner, Intake Coordinator at Suncrest Hospice, is the winner of the December Hospice Caregiver Award presented by Horan & McConaty.  She was nominated by Kim Braun who had this to say about:

I would like to nominate Simone Turner as “Caregiver of The Month.” Where Simone, as an Intake Coordinator, is not your typical caregiver in the sense of direct care, she is every sense of a caregiver when it comes to the first interaction many of our prospect patients and families have when it comes to learning about hospice. Simone is typically the first contact these individuals will speak to about hospice, and where they rarely meet her in person they end their initial conversation with a feeling of comfort, relieve and outlet. As her director, I have left the Intake Office in awe numerous times after having the opportunity to hear her educate these patients (often for more than an hour) with such empathy, compassion, patience and professionalism. No matter how difficult this conversation may be, Simone in the end has probably made these people laugh at some point during the conversation, lightened the load of a very heavy discussion and ended the conversation with the person on the other end feeling confident about the next journey that lies ahead. We at Suncrest are so very fortunate to have her on our team!

 Kim Braun
Suncrest Hospice

Recipients of the monthly Caregiver Award will receive a gift card that can be used for whatever the recipient decides and an award.

In addition, each year the Caregiver of the Year is announced at a banquet honoring the twelve monthly winners. The Caregiver of the Year will win a trip for two within Colorado.

Do you know a Caregiver? Nominate them today!

Congratulations to Our November Caregiver of the Month

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Kristi Rice, RN at The Denver Hospice, is the winner of the November Hospice Caregiver Award presented by Horan & McConaty.  She was nominated by Jamie Weatherly who had the following to say about why she nominated Kristi.

Kristi Rice is a new hospice nurse. But, when you have what it takes, it doesn’t matter if you’ve been doing this 3 months or 15 years. She knows her patient’s needs and how to care for them, going above and beyond what is expected, definitely above what I’ve seen in my hospice career. Kristi assumed cares for a patient with COPD. This patient lives alone, has no connections with anyone. This patient has been fearful and distrustful of anyone. Yesterday, Kristi made her routine visit. She had tried calling the patient several times to let this lady know she was coming, with no luck reaching her on the cell phone, this patient’s only connection to help. When Kristi arrived, this patient said that her phone quit working 2 days ago. This patient had no way of calling anybody, including any emergency services if needed. Kristi personally went to the patient’s mobile carrier store and had the phone fixed, spending over 2 hours getting this taken care of so this patient could call for assistance if needed. Anyone who has worked in hospice knows how little spare time there is in a day. Kristi took 2 additional hours out of her day to make sure this patient had a way to seek help if needed. This is just a very small example of what she has done in a very short time as a hospice nurse. But again, when you have the heart to do this work, it doesn’t matter how long you’ve been a hospice caregiver. Kristi has the heart for this job. She was able to restore trust in a patient that was scared to trust anybody. That in itself speaks volumes :) 

Jamie Weatherly, RN
The Denver Hospice

Recipients of the monthly Caregiver Award will receive a gift card that can be used for whatever the recipient decides and an award.

In addition, each year the Caregiver of the Year is announced at a banquet honoring the twelve monthly winners. The Caregiver of the Year will win a trip for two within Colorado.

Do you know a Caregiver? Nominate them today!

A Time of Remembrance

Please join us for a memorial candle lighting ceremony to honor the memory of those whom we have loved and who have died. All programs begin at 7:00pm and last about one hour.  Refreshments will be served.

  • Thursday, Dec 4- Horan & McConaty, 3020 Federal Blvd.
  • Monday, Dec 8- Horan & McConaty, 1091 S. Colorado Blvd.
  • Tuesday, Dec 9- Horan & McConaty, 5303 E. County Line Rd
  • Thursday, Dec 11- Horan & McConaty, 9998 Grant Street
  • Monday, Dec 15- Horan & McConaty, 3101 S. Wadsworth
  • Tuesday, Dec 16- Horan & McConaty 3201 S. Parker Rd. (Heartlight Center)
  • Thursday, Dec 18- Horan & McConaty 7577 W. 80th Ave.

All are welcome and there is no cost for this program.

Please RSVP to jmcbride@horancares or call 303-745-1771 x342 as to the number of people and which evening you wish to attend.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Meet Our October Hospice Caregiver Award Recipient

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Joan Hummel, Grief Counselor at Porter Hospice/St. Anthony Hospice, is the winner of the October Hospice Caregiver Award presented by Horan & McConaty.  She was nominated by Gretchen Norman who had the following to say about why she nominated Joan.

Joan Hummel is not only an amazing bereavement counselor, she is an amazing co-worker. She is a wealth of knowledge with resources, history, procedures and policies within our company, the community and the world in general! She exudes compassion and is the model of having an all accepting, strength-based approach to our bereaved family members and to our staff. Recently, it happened AGAIN in one of the grief groups I was facilitating. Joan’s name got brought up by one of the participants who is seeing her for individual grief counseling. Several other people in the group perked up as they are being followed by her in bereavement. I added that in years past, having my office next to Joan’s office, I would hear such robust laughter during the sessions that it was hard to believe something as heavy as grief counseling was going on in there. Joan later explained they talk about a lot of things, some very funny things – perhaps as a way of keeping the grief in perspective I imagine. In my group that night, there was such enthusiasm and faith that this ‘miracle worker’ named Joan would be there for them to deal with the grief. And I know Joan, she will! 

Gretchen Norman
Centura Health at Home/Porter Hospice and Butterfly Program

Recipients of the monthly Caregiver Award will receive a gift card that can be used for whatever the recipient decides and an award.

In addition, each year the Caregiver of the Year is announced at a banquet honoring the twelve monthly winners. The Caregiver of the Year will win a trip for two within Colorado.

 

Do you know a Caregiver? Nominate them today!

Congratulations to Our September Hospice Caregiver of the Month Award Recipient

SeptCaregiver2014Kristin Ayon, CNA, at Agape Hospice is the winner of the September Hospice Caregiver Award presented by Horan & McConaty.  She was nominated by Corinne Baker, RN, Agape Hospice, who had the following to say about why she nominated Kristin.

We had a very difficult family and patient recently and they kept pushing Kristin Ayon (CNA) away.  Kristin could see that our patient needed our help, and she continued to show up for visits with a very positive attitude, slowly gaining the trust of our patient family.  Although she was frustrated, knowing how much she could offer and how much the patient needed, she remained very professional, with a result of success.

She was compassionate & caring, altering her daily schedule for this family.  She kept her humor and love for her patient shined each and every day.  As the RN on this case I found her assistance a vital part of keeping our patient safe, comfortable, allowing her in the end to have a peaceful hospice death.

Kristin is a valuable part of our team.  The small little box certainly wasn’t big enough to praise Kristin’s skills, professionalism and all the times I observed her holding the hand of a dying patient.  She is a top notch CNA!  She was put on this earth to be a “Care Giver.”

Corinne Baker, RN
Agape Hospice

Each monthly Caregiver Award winner will receive a gift card that can be used for whatever the recipient decides and an award.

In January, the Hospice Caregiver of the Year will be announced at a banquet honoring the twelve monthly winners. The Caregiver of the Year will win a trip for two within Colorado.

 

Do you know a Caregiver? Nominate them today!

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