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4 Tips For Dealing with Grief During the Holiday Season

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#1 Talk About Your Grief
During the holiday season, don’t be afraid to express your feelings of grief. Ignoring your grief won’t make the pain go away and talking about it openly often makes you feel better. Find caring friends and relatives who will listen-without judging you. They will help make you feel understood.
#2 Be tolerant of Your Physical and Psychological Limits
Feelings of loss will probably leave you fatigued. Your low energy level may naturally slow you down. Respect what your body and mind are telling you. And lower your own expectations about being at your peak during the holiday season.
#3 Eliminate Unnecessary Stress
You may already feel stressed, so don’t overextend yourself. Avoid isolating yourself, but be sure to recognize the need to have special time for yourself. Realize also that merely “keeping busy” won’t distract you from your grief, but may actually increase stress and postpone the need to talk out thoughts and feelings related to your grief.
#4 Be With Supportive, Comforting People
Identify those friends and relatives who understand that the holiday season can increase your sense of loss and who will allow you to talk openly about your feelings. Find those persons who encourage you to be yourself and accept your feelings-both happy and sad.

Please call Jennifer McBride at 303-745-1771 x242 for grief support.

A Time of Remembrance

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Please join us for a memorial candle lighting ceremony to honor the memory of those whom we have loved and who have died. All programs begin at 7:00pm and last about one hour. Refreshments will be served.
 Thursday, Dec 10 – Horan & McConaty, 11150 E. Dartmouth Ave., Aurora
 Tuesday, Dec 15 – Horan & McConaty, 9998 Grant Street, Thornton
 Thursday, Dec 17- Horan & McConaty, 3101 S. Wadsworth Blvd, Lakewood

All are welcome and there is no cost for this program.  Please RSVP to jmcbride@horancares or call 303-745-1771 x342 as to the number of people and which evening you wish to attend.

Annual Luminaria Remembrance Service

Please join us Sunday, November 1, 2015 at 4:00 p.m. for the

Annual Luminaria Remembrance Service at the Cremation Gardens at Rocky Mountain Memorial Parks.

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The Cremation Gardens
11148 E. Dartmouth Ave.
Denver, CO 80014

The Cremation Gardens
5303 E. County Line Rd.
Centennial, CO 80122

This moving event allows families to pay tribute to their loved ones memorial which is located in the Cremation Gardens at Rocky Mountain Memorial Park.

A service of remembrance will be conducted and food will be served.

For more information call 303-743-8804.

Important Seminar Information

The Paradoxes of Mourning

Join us for an informative workshop with Dr. Alan Wolfelt. This workshop will be helpful to anyone who wants to learn more about essential caregiving principals for caring for grieving persons.

When: Thursday, October 15, 2015
from 9am to 3:30pm

Where: Horan & McConaty
5303 E. County Line Road
Centennial, CO 80122
(at Holly Street)

Cost: $35 to HeartLight Center
Includes lunch and certificate of participation.

How to register:
Email: emily@heartlightcenter.org
Call: 720.748.9908

Mail:
Heartlight Center
11150 E. Dartmouth Ave.
Denver, CO 80014
Attn: Emily Johnson

>>Entry Form

Kind Words

ThankYouImageThis wonderful note reinforces the importance of having team members who are warm, kind, and professional.  Kudos to our funeral director, Abby Sweeney!

-John Horan

Good afternoon Mr. Wellensiek.

I hadn’t been involved in a family Memorial service, up close anyway, before May of this year. My father passed on Mother’s day this year.

I went with my mother and brother to the Horan & McConaty facility on South Wadsworth. We had an appointment, or so I thought, but it appeared upon our arrival that no one was expecting us.

That’s when we met Abby Sweeney. I’ll admit, I had some preconceived, unfounded, ideas about the kind of people we would meet at the Horan & McConaty facility. Abby dispelled my negativity very quickly. She put us at ease and genuinely seemed to care for and about us. At the end of our initial meeting I felt as if we had really added a caring person to our grieving family.

Abby called the cemetery for us, and set an appointment for us to meet with them. There was quite a contrast to the warm professionalism we were received with by your team.

As we worked through arrangements during the week we felt supported and helped by Abby and others at Horan & McConaty. We made several calls and emails to Abby and always got timely and helpful responses. I went to the Lakewood office, met two more ladies of your excellent staff, handed off picture files and chose music for the very nicely edited picture presentation done by your willing and helpful team.

From preparation and through the week Abby was there for us. At the graveside service Abby and the team were helpful, supportive and always appropriately positive. At the church, for the memorial, Abby was a great resource when we had questions about how and what to do.

I’m not sure what else I can say. Abby and the others we met from the Lakewood team did an excellent job for our family. I just wanted to let you all know.

Many thanks to your team for helping us make what could have been a very trying time, into a time we could focus on family and friends instead of logistics and facilities.         

Kevin R.

May Hospice Caregiver Award

MayCaregiver2015Carol Robertson is the winner of the May Hospice Caregiver Award, presented by Horan & McConaty.  Carol was nominated by Dina Schall.

I had to write and tell you how exceptionally kind and caring my mom’s CNA, Carol Robertson, is.  My mother was diagnosed almost 10 years ago with Alzheimer’s.  Her doctor put her on hospice care in January 2015.  Mom had a hard time connecting with any caregivers for years. I figured it was due to her disease.  Upon suggestion from mom’s social worker, we decided to try Carol.  Within five minutes of Carol walking in the door, we heard Mom laugh and saw her smile!!  I was amazed!  She showered her, dressed her, fed her and held her hand the entire time.  I knew then she was sent from heaven!  The second time Carol was here, I even heard my mom singing in the shower.  After all these years with the disease, Mom doesn’t remember anything.  She hasn’t known who I am for many years.  There is something special with Carol.  Mom couldn’t tell you her name but she seems happy and content when Carol is near.  Carol never fails to give Mom a hug, even when Mom is having a very bad day.  She… Carol… is the most devoted and caring person I think I have ever met.  I don’t know how much time I have left with my mother but I will be eternally grateful for the time we both have had with Carol Robertson.

Sincerely,
Dina Schall
Daughter

Each monthly Caregiver Award winner will receive a gift card that can be used for whatever the recipient decides and an award.

At the end of twelve months the review committee will select the Caregiver of the Year to be revealed at a banquet honoring the twelve finalists. The Caregiver of the Year will win a trip for two within Colorado.

Do you know a Caregiver? Nominate them today!

Making a Difference

starfish3I saw a photo of how cattle react to threatening conditions by clustering together and facing toward the center, away from the threat. While this may work for cattle, it makes me think of humans who choose to avert their eyes or to not put them in places where something can be seen or experienced which causes discomfort.  As the saying goes, there are none so blind as those who will not see…

In thinking about this I am reminded of the story and image of the child throwing starfish back into the ocean, saving a life with each toss. The person observing this inquires as to how this can make a difference and the child tosses one back and says “it made a difference to that one.”

In today’s world, we are surrounded by lots of information and plenty of selfishness (“it’s all about me”).  Changing the world may seem overwhelming, but we have the opportunity to change ourselves and make changes one at a time in the lives of people we meet.

Life affords us the opportunity to be observant, kind, and present to the situations and needs of others. It could be a neighbor, a member of a family we are serving, a co-worker, a server in a restaurant, or someone on the other side of the world (e.g. The Heifer Project). My observation is those who routinely and genuinely aim their hearts and minds toward others are those who seem to live the richest and fullest lives.

Best wishes for a wonderful summer.

All my best,
John J. Horan

Honoring Our Heroes with Special Benefits

At Horan & McConaty, we are eternally indebted to our military veterans who courageously serve our nation and protect our freedom. We honor our veterans by assisting them with obtaining all veterans benefits, Social Security benefits and life insurance benefits. There are many misconceptions regarding what benefits are available to veterans.

To learn more about what your actual benefits may be, please join us for a complementary lunch or dinner and this FREE seminar.  Be sure to bring your honorable discharge (DD-214) along, so we can make copies of it for you to distribute family members.  Please RSVP at 303.743.8804 to reserve your space at one of these valuable sessions TODAY!

Monday, July 20
11150 East Dartmouth Avenue, Aurora
Map & Directions
Noon and 6:00 p.m.

Tuesday, July 21
3101 South Wadsworth Boulevard, Lakewood
Maps/Directions
Noon and 6:00 p.m.

Wednesday, July 22
9998 Grant Street, Thornton
Map & Directions
Noon and 6:00 p.m.

Thursday, July 23
5303 E. County Line Road, Centennial
Map & Directions
Noon and 6:00 p.m.

John Horan Shares David Metzler’s Story and Talks Pre-Planning on Colorado and Company

On NBC Colorado and Company, watch as John Horan talks with Denise Plante and shares David Metzler’s story about his wife, their life together and why TRUST made him choose Horan & McConaty.  John also shares the importance of preplanning and what it means to a family.

John Horan Shares David Metzler’s Story and Talks Pre-Planning on Colorado and Company

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